Assalamualaikum, ni hao, konnichiwa..
Today i would like to talk about children. When you have sons or daughters who has reach more than 15 years old, treat them as your friends. Not as an immature, no brain, or etc downgrade. Dont always blabbering, comparing yours condition of upbringing with the current situation. You want them to be able to be independent but what have you done? U act as if they got no brain to think. They have no choice but to follow everything what you decide without even discuss. Is that how you want to train to be independent? BIG NO!! That is actually one way of you are going to make them disaster when you disappear one day. Your children will not be able to live independently because of your wrong upbringing.